Group rules
Codes of Conduct
- be on time, or 15 minutes earlier. If you are late- inform your buddy
- be sober, no smoking, drugs or alcohol – also not the day before
- no porn 30 days before and during a training/retreat
- respect the sacred space, no cups or tea, socks etc. in the temple space
- no chit-chat
- no phones
- hold each other sharp
- no fixing, advising or coaching people unless they ask for it
- show up for the practices. Don’t leave the temple if you are triggered
With regards to your buddy you have a buddy call at least once a week
- keep it short and functional, set a timer. 10 to 15 minutes
- one person listens without interrupting, coaching or ‘highjacking’ the experience, just asking questions about feelings and needs
- share about your experiences and emotions
- No fixing each other
- try to go beyond the storytelling and go what’s underneath
- you can reflect with: “did I hear correctly that…”
With regard to the practice with men and women
- minimal communication. Keep it functional with regards to the practices
- no exchange of bodily fluids (this includes kisses)
- you don’t need names or phone numbers
- don’t look a person up on social media
- no hugging or saying goodbye at the end of the training-day
- if you have a partner in the other group; each goes through their own process, the rules still apply on the spot
why you cannot talk to the other sex during the training:
- We want to keep the mind out of the practices. With talking comes judgements and the possibility to close off in an exercise
- It is refreshing to open yourself for a practise partner and know that you don’t have to worry about ‘strings attached’
- The polarity disappears
- meeting each other in the moment opens your heart
- You will fall in love, that is the magic of Tantra. For safety reasons we keep to these group rules and codes of conduct,
- Endorfines and oxytocine will flow and we will keep clear and conscious.
- Boundaries are nessecary to open up to a sacred space.